I understand people have lovely things happening through their lives, a new job, a marriage or even having child. I am not against people sharing their happiness with others as they could have family and friends that they want to share the news with and they not physically living close to them so posting it on social media is the best way to get the news across to them. But then there are those people who will feel very embarrassed or ashamed to post when something upsetting or bad happens to them, they will completely stop communicating when that happens and then will re appear on SM when everything is hunky dory again. They will keep it all top secret so people that are outside of their world will only be able to see that they are always happy and never have sad or bad times in their lives which is not the case. Every person has happy moment and then sad moments too, life is never just a straight line, it will always be a rollercoaster through its course. Some will say upsetting and sad time are personal moment that do not need to be shared with everyone but then you can say the same thing about the good moment that happen in our lives, they are personal and do not need to be shared with everyone in the world. It should work both ways not just one way. If you look at this on the other side, there are so many people out there who follow celebrities and influential people on SM these days and idolise them and their lives, they see all the good posts that are being made available but then compare it to their own lives and see that they aren’t able to compare. This is especially difficult for people who have low self-esteem, nothing wrong with that, we all have a time in our lives when we feel like things will never get better and seeing posts where people are continuously posting about having the best time of their lives and never having a downer in their life at all makes others think there is something wrong with their lives and they are never having best moments in their lives like the other people they are seeing.  The people we follow may only show post all the good memories and not the bad so the viewers can only see what they are being shown. It is like people have 2 faces, one face that is only for SM so they only show the good side to them at all times and another face which is their reality, which only people who are close to them see. General members of the public who follow them and admire them will never be able to see this side of their face so they are only seeing the side that is wanting to be shown.

I’m sure you can all name someone who posts everything about their lives on SM. From what they eat to what they are wearing to where they are the whole day. It can be annoying for some of the viewers that follow them but it can be easily ignored too or you can choose to unfollow them if it affecting you that much. But what about when they post saying they feel freaked out or feeling quite scared that there is someone stalking them on a daily basis. They may be receiving messages from a viewer who may be stalking them and being quite creepy. It’s not a surprise that people receive comments or have messages sent to them which are creepy and make a person think they are being stalked through their post. Some stalking may just be harmless but then there can be a serious stalker out there which can be dangerous. You could be anywhere and this person can turn up there because you are sharing this information publically to be seen. We as people are continuously told and warned about the use of SM excessively, we are told to be careful about what we post and who is able to see all the posts. Especially if they are posts that are particularly personal and have personal details attached to them. There is geo tagging where people are able to use the location service on their phone to pin point their actual location so viewers can see exactly where this person is. Basically on SM you don’t know for sure who is following you and who is able to see your posts. It could be anyone watching you and you are giving them all the details they need to know so much more about you and know exactly where you are.

This point may not apply to all people but can apply to some. Trolls, they have now been given a specific name for these people as it happening quite frequently to people. This is when people leave rude and horrible remarks as comments to posts that have been published on SM. They can be from anything from abusing the poster or threatening them through the post. It can be anything is likely to make the poster feel uneasy. The most common place I have seen it is on celebrity or reality star posts, where the troll has leave a remark regarding the poster’s looks. It could be anything from saying they look ugly, to they are fake or even comparisons to an animal. A lot of people who receive comments like this do not respond back to comments like these they know that it is just wasting their time and the abuser is just looking for attention. If it is constant the person may block the troll to prevent comments like that from being posted on their posts. A lot of the comments are harmless and just someone who has a lot of time on their hands to be horrible or even jealous. There have been some times when a celebrity has been affected by the comments that they have had to take measures to ensure things like this does not keep happening as it can affect them personally. Some have disabled the comments feature for some time to prevent comments being left on their posts but then it affects the people who want to genuinely leave a pleasant response on the post. Some trolls go to the extent to create replica page of the person they want to troll and then use that profile to be abusive which can affect a person’s celebrity status in a way as people will think that the celebrity is the one that is out there abusing their fans when this is not the case at all. But until the celebrity realises that this is happening it can keep happening in the background. It usually doesn’t take long to find this out as fans will start posting about it which then alerts the celeb and they report the page / account. To ensure the account is closed down, they may ask their fans to do the same as SM reports are taken action to sooner if there are multiple reports regarding an account.

It is so so easy to pick your phone and see what your friends and family are doing. You can just go onto SM and send them a message and have a conversation with them whilst they are at work or just sat on their sofa. Of course it is very useful for communication for when you are worlds away from someone as it allows you to speak to them like they are in the same room as you. But what about the actual social side of getting off your sofa and going to meet up with someone, even if it is for something as small as a walk or a cup of coffee. You could be living 5 minutes from someone and yet you sit there on your phones chatting to each other when you can make the effort of meeting up. Fair enough if is a little more hard work than working your fingers on a screen but it will do your mind some good. A lot of forget that side of it and stick to the sofa and the phone. Yes we have everything at our finger tips but what about using the traditional way to do things for a change sometimes when we do have the time. Of course not everyone uses their phone for all communication but there are a lot of people out there who will do that. We as the new and modern generation will not see that or see anything wrong with it, but I am sure our parents and grandparents will have something completely different to say. I have always had time and I still have occasions when my parents tell me to get off my phone and give it a break for a little while. It is because thing were different for them in their time and they feel that we should be doing the same from time to time as they do understand the phones are taking over, they don’t want us to be stuck to them and forget that there is an outside world out there too waiting to be explored.

Everyone wants to be perfect, they want to look perfect and feel perfect. Some people may feel they are perfect or feel that a certain celebrity or a group of people are perfect. I feel everyone is perfect in one way or another and there is no one person that is perfect. There may be some qualities of a person that are perfect but then another person may be perfect at something else, it doesn’t have to be the same thing and they don’t have to be perfect at everything or even be perfect for everyone. Flaws make people unique from the next person. SM doesn’t always allow a person to be perfect, it puts an image out there that you need to look a certain way and dress a certain way in order to be perfect. If you don’t match then you are not perfect at all. For example, you need to be a size 6 in order to be classed as slim, if you are anything over that then you are counted as overweight and fat. If you have a let’s say uneven complexion, you may be said to be not pretty, but the faces that you are seeing on SM more often tend to be edited pictures or most commonly covered with makeup which removed the uneven complexion. All the public see is the perfectly make up skin that is being shown not the actual skin that is under the makeup. A lot of the time we don’t see the natural skin of the people that we follow as they don’t feel comfortable posting it so a lot of people are just judged by what is seen. This sort of judgement affects the female population a lot, at the start it was quite bad as you would either fit into the stereotypical group or out of it. Now things are slowly changing and people are becoming more open about what a female should look like. You don’t have to look the same as the people you follow on SM, you can be you and look different to them. It doesn’t help that so many people out there have this stereotypical mind and aren’t happy to look past that. Sometimes, own family and friends will do the comparing and put a person down because of small things like this. They are not willing to look past what a person looks like to see that there is a beautiful person underneath the skin. It’s quite sad to see that as there is a lot more to a person than what the eye sees but not many people want to explore that. Till this day there are instances where a person is judged on the basis of their skin and build for big life decisions such as marriage. People decide if this person will be a good fit for their family, based on what they look like. If they like what they see then they will take things further otherwise they will make the judgement and say no this person is too dark skinned or they are not slim enough to be a part of our family.